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A MEMORY COMPANION

He thought enough of me
to converse a thousand
kinds of conversations
over thousands of days.

He thought enough of me
to break bread a thousand
kinds of epicurean delights
over thousands of meals.

He thought enough of me
to court me every day
with romance and love
enough to fill a fine book.

He thought enough of me
to make millions of memories
very sweet and love true
over millions of moments.

He thought enough of me
to vow before almighty God
to love, trust, and cherish
until death we do part.

How do I finally say goodbye?
How do I redirect my vows
from my forever true love
to any possibility of other.

My heart yearns to turn
the dimension of time
infinitely backwards
to my comforting memories.

Now it has become painful
to bottle up the thousands
of leftover I love yous
trapped in my heart.

I have become lonely
since he went to be
with The Lord above
who loves us completely.

I will confess to His Spirit
my forever true Friend
who lives deep inside
my forever soul and spirit

I find as time goes by
a million unstoppable
new thoughts and feelings
bubbling up inside my heart.

I dream of an imagined love
who converses and dines
with a different sort of me
making memories anew.

And I wonder is it possible
from our Creator, above
to have in His plan for me
another memory companion.

Texas Lady Juanita

Copyright © 2019 by Juanita Holloway-Walters

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BLUE WIDOW

by Texas Lady Juanita

Whatever will I do
To stop being so blue
About my sentiments true
Of left-over love for you?

The best love I ever gave
In my entire blessed life
Not ending at your grave
My being your faithful wife.

I dream of you passionately
Of trysts stirring deep in my soul
Of realities I created magically
Of fantasies I do happily extol.

At death we did truly part
New memories at an end
But the vow etched on my heart
I now know I must surely rend.

For marriages have no heavenly face
In scriptures there is truth of His place
You are now in God’s dimensional space
And I am still on Earth by His holy grace.

With my abundance of extra love
In loneliness, what shall I, must I do
With The Lord’s blessings from above
And endless possibilities ever anew.

Please do not jump to conclusions
There are many types of loving joy
Likened to myriads of love transfusions
Life’s positive building blocks we employ.

Copyright © 2019 by Juanita Holloway-Walters

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HAPPY NEW YEAR

First, the eulogy I have only just now been able to write,
for my husband who went to be with Jesus January 16, 2018. I am almost whole again. Yes, it is true, I have been defined by a beautiful word most of the prior 23 years before this one. The word is exquisite. It is full of everything a woman comfortable in her own skin feels when loved in equal measure by someone she loves. There is nothing that compares to feeling like this – nothing. It is born from a simple touch by one who exudes trust with every smile, tear, word, lyric, touch, kiss, intimacy, and commonality of faith in our loving Creator. It has been my pleasure and my honor to love and be in love with John.

On this, our first anniversary apart (New Year’s Eve 11:45 p.m.), I can still close my eyes, and feel exquisite from memory. The Lord gets the glory of this thing He defined for us; this thing called marriage. In this I have been blessed beyond measure. With each passing day I feel John’s presence a little less. I have felt my Mamma’s presence every day since her passing, but not so with John. I sense beyond about a dozen dimensions, that he is happy and very busy. I should not be surprised that The Lord would have lofty uses for my Marine in the Spiritual Battles waged in Heaven above. I imagine John as nothing less than a Colonel. His faith was alive and real every hour of every day.

Moving on to the here and now.
I am happy and at peace. I have odd thoughts of a new chapter in my life beginning soon. I am a little afraid. The only chapter I got right in my life was the last one with John. Before that – before the healing of Juanita through our Lord and Savior – I was broken and unable to pick a man to be my husband who was interested in the long term with me. I remember concluding that I must not be lovable. Oh, what a sad feeling that was. But, The Lord knew better, and healed my heart and soul. I just need to remember to trust in The Lord’s plan for my life – harder said than always done. I know we are each here for God’s glory.

My spine doctor managed to avoid the comparative MRI results of my spine – 2018 MRI vs. 2015 MRI – for a few visits, but we finally broached the subject. The words I was left with in my mind are “awful mess.” The words he used, in obvious hopes I would let it go, were ‘a lot of scarring, a lot of wear and tear, and much degeneration’. Well hell, I guess if you have Degenerative Spine Disease (as well as RA, OA, Fibro, Neuropathy, and IBS) for forty years, much degeneration is to be expected. The week before my PCP had called up the MRI on the screen to assure me that the results were in. He looked at the screen, my face, and quickly shut it down. I had not seen the “awful mess” picture before, and now know why no one ever shows the film to me. As a lay person, I cannot get the words “awful mess” to go away. But, I am still a tribute to my stubbornness. I walk, take good care of myself, my dog, and my belongings. I think I enjoy my roadster convertible so much because with the wind in my hair, I feel like I am running; and when the music is good, I am dancing.

This last few weeks I have had unexpected feelings of joy just bubbling out of me! Joy, my old friend, did not abandon me after all. I think my beautiful and talented Grandgirls have had a lot to do with this. They are both an awesome blend of their mamma and daddy. I admit that one of them is a mini-me! Well, she is the me I would have been, had I been raised in a less stressful parentage, and much more nurturing. I love them both with every fiber of my being in such a special way that I had never hoped to have with grandchildren. Sadly, because of the continuing war between their parents, my other three older grandchildren have been weaponized by the situation with their parents against me. Their father because I am my daughter’s mother; and their mother because if she cannot have them, then no one else can either. I pray for them every day, for their war wounds are obvious, and deep. I love my daughter, and my grandchildren from afar. I have been wondering if what The Lord has in store for me on my path has to do with helping broken families in some way, since I have come to understand so many dynamics in this field of study.

Well, my goodness, I sure did cover a huge field of HAPPY NEW YEAR. I am getting things out in the open to begin the New Year right. I don’t believe in New Year’s Resolutions. They are like laws that can only condemn when we fall short of the mark. Last night at midnight I asked my Grandgirls to tell me one of their dreams for their future. I told them that this is what we will do each New Year’s Eve from now on. They didn’t take it very seriously, but as the years go by they will get the hang of it. I pray they continue this tradition into their adult years, and beyond. Dreams make our world go around and around in hope, love, faith, and joy. God bless you today and always.

You may quote me in these thoughts,
Texas Lady Juanita
Copyright © 2019 by Juanita Holloway-Walters

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LET OUR CREATOR DEFINE US

WE MUST NEVER LET ANY MERE MORTAL DEFINE WHO WE ARE
My first love told my daddy when exactly he would be his son-in-law. Then he was unfaithful. I was ashamed I was not worthy of fidelity.
My second love was abusive, AND cheated on me. Something in me deflated.
My third love made fun of me in a mean way, and he was unfaithful.
After a few whirlwind, abusive loves, something inside me screamed STOP!!!!!!
I remembered two important things for any human to know –
1. I got on my knees and asked for The Lord to pick me a forever husband that would love me in all the ways I love. I asked for a man that loves The Lord.
2. I remembered something important I read in Atlas Shrugged. Our chosen mate represents our highest ideal we have of our self. I asked The Lord to also make sure my forever husband would match this requirement .
God sent me John, and before God took John home, I was married to the most amazing best friend, magical romanticist, conversationalist, husband, and father for our combined children – for 23 years.
The Lord is faithful.
I thrived, and even when illness took my youthful looks, I felt beautiful. I was just me. The Lord won the beauty argument.
You can quote me on this,
Texas Lady Juanita

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THE FIGHT OF OUR LIVES

Congressman Hon. A.S. Herlong Jr. of Florida read a list of 45 Communist Goals into the Congressional Record in 1963 – 55 years ago. This was a wake-up call to the up and coming Baby Boomer generation of the United States of America. There are many reasons why the Boomers did not heed this call:

~ Blue laws were overturned, and many raised up in a Christian Church, could find reasonable excuses to shop on Sundays, take the family out to eat, go to an indoor movie, and a hundred other reasons to find fellowship outside the Church. Instinctively, I believe many Boomer Christians were very Bible savvy, and understood that THE CHURCH is the ‘Body of Christ’ (the people), and not the man-made rules of thousands of Christian denominations. They famously, “threw out the baby with the bathwater.”

~ Christianity and family go hand in hand; when Americans drifted away from the church, they drifted away from knowing their neighbors – and even knowing their own family members. Divorce became common. Children no longer had the foundation of the church, and local fellowship to give them a sense of belonging.

~ Christianity and our Constitution go hand in hand; Constitutional law being replaced by the ever-elusive case law created an atmosphere of anything goes in our legal system. Boomers became less and less confident in our government, and our legal system.

~ Vietnam. Boomers lost their friends, brothers, and fathers to this “police action” that had zero support in most of America. Instead of directing our anger where it belonged, many Americans placed the blame in error on our Armed Forces. The divide between America and our Armed Forces would grow wider with time.

~ Margaret Sanger’s Planned Parenthood has continually to present day worked to achieve her goals for the reduction of poor and ignorant minorities. “Her goal, for the United States, was to increase the representation of the “native white strain”, which did not include first or second generation immigrants in her mind.” “Blacks have been aborted at about 3 times the rate of whites, according to Statistically Abstracts of the United States 2012.”

~ Hippies turned into Yuppie’s, and America’s love affair with careers, homes, cars, lavish vacations, and corner offices would do as much to wreck America’s families as divorce.

~ When we turn on computers in our schools, and when we turn on our iPhones we see an apple with a bite out of it – this representation of original sin should have given us a warning of what was to come. For every good we can name for our computerized world, we can name an endless list of evil. One huge example is internet pornography which is an epidemic in our world.

~ The war on drugs. The war on poverty. Two domestic wars that are dismal failures. Both are infested with drugs and poverty.

Below is the list of 45 Communist goals to infiltrate America and destroy her from within. You will see how far down this rabbit hole America has fallen. Americans can partner ideologically with Trump and our Military for a last chance to turn this around, with a “Great Awakening.” Americans who state their faith is Christianity has been holding the line at 85% of our population for many years. I pray for our “Great Awakening” to be defined by our Christian FAITH:

“2 Chronicles 7:14 King James Version
“If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.”

THE MOVEMENT TO DESTROY THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICA FROM WITHIN is defined by the goals Congressman Herlong quoted from Cleon Skousen’s book “The Naked Communist:”
My remarks are all in [brackets]  . . .

1. U.S. acceptance of coexistence as the only alternative to atomic war.
2. U.S. willingness to capitulate in preference to engaging in atomic war.
3. Develop the illusion that total disarmament [by] the United States would be a demonstration of moral strength.

[As long as man has a sin nature, it would be foolish for the U.S. to disarm, because our enemy is Satanic and would never actually disarm. Our enemy among us prides itself in telling lies that Americans want to believe.

“Ephesians 6:12 King James Version
“For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.” ‘Spiritual wickedness in high places’ – even in our own government.]

4. Permit free trade between all nations regardless of Communist affiliation and
s   regardless of whether or not items could be used for war.
5. Extension of long-term loans to Russia and Soviet satellites.
6. Provide American aid to all nations regardless of Communist domination.

[DONE – YOUR HARD-EARNED MONEY IS GOING TO OUR ENEMIES. HOW DID YOU (AMERICA) LET THIS HAPPEN WITHOUT A FIGHT?]

7. Grant recognition of Red China. Admission of Red China to the U.N.

[As one of my childhood friends says: Snicker, Snicker]

8. Set up East and West Germany as separate states in spite of Khrushchev’s promise in
1955 to settle the German question by free elections under supervision of the U.N.

[Is it possible that America affects the outcomes of elections around the world? How can we, with a straight face, accuse anyone else of this crime?]

9. Prolong the conferences to ban atomic tests because the United States has agreed to
suspend tests as long as negotiations are in progress.
10. Allow all Soviet satellites individual representation in the U.N.

[More of that snickering behind my hand.]

11. Promote the U.N. as the only hope for mankind. If its charter is rewritten, demand
that it be set up as a one-world government with its own independent armed forces.
(Some Communist leaders believe the world can be taken over as easily by the U.N. as
by Moscow. Sometimes these two centers compete with each other as they are now
doing in the Congo.)

[My nightmare is that I wake up and find either Gore, Clinton (either), or a Bush as the Secretary General of the UN. Can you imagine the out and out fight to take over America?]

12. Resist any attempt to outlaw the Communist Party.
13. Do away with all loyalty oaths.
14. Continue giving Russia access to the U.S. Patent Office.
15. Capture one or both of the political parties in the United States.
16. Use technical decisions of the courts to weaken basic American institutions by
claiming their activities violate civil rights.

[LOUD SNICKERING]

17. Get control of the schools. Use them as transmission belts for socialism and current
Communist propaganda. Soften the curriculum. Get control of teachers’ associations.
Put the party line in textbooks.
18. Gain control of all student newspapers.
19. Use student riots to foment public protests against programs or organizations which
are under Communist attack.

[Done. But, we are fighting back, and are reversing Agenda 21 across the country. It is just taking too long because parents are too busy with their lives to realize how important this is.
Newspapers recently talking about children who are demanding to by-pass parents, and affect law making directly should have scared the crap out of Baby Boomer children who have lost control of their children to the idea of Communism and Socialism. Where did they learn this? In our public schools that our tax dollars support 100%.]

20. Infiltrate the press. Get control of book-review assignments, editorial writing,
policymaking positions.
21. Gain control of key positions in radio, TV, and motion pictures.
22. Continue discrediting American culture by degrading all forms of artistic expression.
An American Communist cell was told to “eliminate all good sculpture from parks
and buildings, substitute shapeless, awkward and meaningless forms.”
23. Control art critics and directors of art museums. “Our plan is to promote ugliness,
repulsive, meaningless art.”
24. Eliminate all laws governing obscenity by calling them “censorship” and a violation
of free speech and free press.
25. Break down cultural standards of morality by promoting pornography and obscenity
in books, magazines, motion pictures, radio, and TV.

[How many shades of gray? My ex once told me, “That most of the world lived in the gray areas, not the Black and White that I lived in. Why, if I didn’t know about his promiscuity, because he would be careful, it really doesn’t hurt me, does it?”]

26. Present homosexuality, degeneracy and promiscuity as “normal, natural, healthy.”
27. Infiltrate the churches and replace revealed religion with “social” religion. Discredit
the Bible and emphasize the need for intellectual maturity which does not need a
“religious crutch.”
28. Eliminate prayer or any phase of religious expression in the schools on the ground
that it violates the principle of “separation of church and state.”

[PLEASE READ MY COMMENTARY DEBUNKING “SEPARATION OF CHURCH AND STATE” FOLLOWING THIS LIST OF COMMUNIST GOALS IN THE UNITEDS STATES OF AMERICA.]

29. Discredit the American Constitution by calling it inadequate, old-fashioned, out of
step with modern needs, a hindrance to cooperation between nations on a worldwide
basis. concern for the “common man.”
31. Belittle all forms of American culture and discourage the teaching of American
history on the ground that it was only a minor part of the “big picture.” Give more
emphasis to Russian history since the Communists took over.

[It is getting harder to snicker . . . The last three remind me of the last three or four Presidential elections.]

32. Support any socialist movement to give centralized control over any part of the
culture – education, social agencies, welfare programs, mental health clinics, etc.
33. Eliminate all laws or procedures which interfere with the operation of the
Communist apparatus.
34. Eliminate the House Committee on Un-American Activities.
35. Discredit and eventually dismantle the FBI.

[Say what?]

36. Infiltrate and gain control of more unions.
37. Infiltrate and gain control of big business.
38. Transfer some of the powers of arrest from the police to social agencies. Treat all
behavioral problems as psychiatric disorders which no one but psychiatrists can
understand [or treat].
39. Dominate the psychiatric profession and use mental health laws as a means of
gaining coercive control over those who oppose Communist goals.

[Definitely not snickering.]

40. Discredit the family as an institution. Encourage promiscuity and easy divorce.
41. Emphasize the need to raise children away from the negative influence of parents.
Attribute prejudices, mental blocks and retarding of children to suppressive influence
of parents.
42. Create the impression that violence and insurrection are legitimate aspects of the
American tradition; that students and special-interest groups should rise up and use
[“]united force[“] to solve economic, political or social problems.

[OH MY!]

43. Overthrow all colonial governments before native populations are ready for self-
government.
44. Internationalize the Panama Canal.
45. Repeal the Connally reservation so the United States cannot prevent the World Court.

[The End.
How do you feel about our America right now?
Is it past time your voice was heard on Capitol Hill?
The voices of over 100 million American adults would change our nation into anything we decided we wanted to be.
Me too. Constitutional Representative Republic.]

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My commentary from August 10, 2012 on “Separation of Church and State” . . .
originally published in webcommentary . com
where I wrote as a guest author from 2010 to 2013;
after which I have written commentaries under my own blog texasladyjuanita.com

I have taken a long vacation from writing while caring for my late husband, and best friend, the king of romance, John. He went to be with Jesus on January 16, 2018. I miss him so much it still takes my breath away. I didn’t realize how much time we each spent spoiling the other until he was gone. I don’t have someone special to spoil anymore. On the other hand, for weeks, I would sit in my car waiting for the door to be opened – he did that for 23 years. I do not wish losing the love of your life for anyone. Such loss is not for sissies to bear. Everyone keeps telling me that I am the strongest woman they know. I am starting to believe it.

I have a pile of writing that I have not published. It is time to jump in with both feet. I hope to publish some new work soon. In the meantime, I felt it is important to publish this information that I have published before, because it is very timely.
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American Revival & Mr. Jefferson’s Letters

It never occurred to me before to read Thomas Jefferson’s letter that the phrase “separation of church and state” came from. The Lord moved upon my thoughts today to find and read the letter, and I am so thankful that I have read it. Prior to 1947 the phrase was widely believed to protect Americans from the government dictating which Christian religion Americans would belong to. Since 1947 the courts have seen fit to give the phrase a meaning which clearly was not the intent of Mr. Jefferson. The phrase has been used to divorce American life from America’s Christian religion.

I am sure you all know by now that the phrase “separation of church and state” does not appear in the Declaration of Independence or in our Constitution. It does not even appear as a popular phrase in preserved writing during the time of our Republic’s founding. The phrase must be viewed as it is in context of Mr. Jefferson’s whole letter. I believe that if Americans were to read the letter with an unbiased mind and heart, they would cry out in agony of the injustice and of the damage that has been done to American society as a result of court rulings based on the term “separation of church and state.”

I have inserted my commentary between lines of Thomas Jefferson’s letter to the Danbury Baptist association, written in 1802. My commentary will be italicized and enclosed in brackets:

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Gentlemen,

The affectionate sentiments of esteem and approbation which

[approbation = approval],

you are so good as to express towards me, on behalf of the Danbury Baptist association, give me the highest satisfaction. my duties dictate a faithful and zealous pursuit of the interests of my constituents, & in proportion as they are persuaded of my fidelity to those duties, the discharge of them becomes more and more pleasing.

[He is happy that his constituent’s opinion of his pursuit of his constituent’s interests is equal to his actual faithful and zealous pursuits on their behalf.]

Believing with you that religion is a matter which lies solely between Man & his God, that he owes account to none other for his faith or his worship,

[We owe an accounting of our faith, and how we worship, to no one but God.]

that the legitimate powers of government reach actions only, & not opinions,

[The government has its limited and legitimate powers spelled out in the Constitution. Those in government, once elected, should not be spewing their personal opinions as if they were law.]

I contemplate with sovereign reverence that act of the whole American people which declared that their legislature should “make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof,”

[He is in awe of the American people with their absolute power and authority declared that their law makers will never make a law establishing a particular Christian religion as the religion of the land. This is clearly in contrast to The Church of England, which they removed themselves from. They came here to have the freedom of whatever Christian religion they wanted to participate in. There were, to name just a few, Episcopalians, Roman Catholics, Presbyterians, Quakers, Baptists, Lutherans and Methodists. All thirteen colonies had constitutions that protected Christianity as the state religion. Even today, almost every state in the union has our Christian God in their State Constitutions. Until recent diversion, oaths of office have always been taken on the Holy Bible, and saying the words, “so help me God.” Sessions of State and Federal Congress have begun with Christian prayer beginning with our first elected officials. Until modern times, Sunday has been honored as a day of rest; this tradition is peculiar only to Christianity. When I was a girl, almost all stores were closed on Sundays. Most families spent time with their family at church and at home on Sundays. Currently, one can barely tell the difference between Saturday and Sunday. The family unit has deteriorated with the decline of our Christianity being present in our daily lives.]

[The phrase “or prohibiting the free exercise thereof” insures that no one can stop me from practicing my religion. Mr. Obama stating that “we are no longer a Christian nation” comes as a surprise of his ignorance that 85% of Americans are Christian.]

thus building a wall of separation between Church & State.

[Until modern times, this phrase was viewed in the context of the rest of the letter as declaration that the government will never be able to dictate what religion we belong to. This phrase lends itself to our religious protection from the state.]

[During the time of our Republic’s founding the term “rights of conscience” was a common phrase used for our Christian, God given rights and associated responsibilities. These rights belong to us every minute of every day we are alive. These rights define who we are. Who we are cannot be divided from our activities at home, at play, or at work – even if our work is that of politics – or, perhaps even most important if our work is in service to our citizens. Our Christian population is in dire need of returning to the “rights of conscience” that defined us in the birth of our American Republic.]

[To quote Thomas Jefferson, in a letter to the Society of the Methodist Episcopal Church at New London, CT, February 4, 1809, “No provision in our Constitution ought to be dearer to man than that which protects the rights of conscience.” Mr. Jefferson is actually saying that there is provision in our Constitution that protects “the rights of conscience.” There is no better definition for something Mr. Jefferson wrote, than for him to define it for us in his own words, in this second letter.]

I shall see with sincere satisfaction the progress of those sentiments which tend to restore to man all his natural rights, convinced he has no natural right in opposition to his social duties.

[After the agonies of war and suffering borne in gaining our independence, it is quite natural to see Mr. Jefferson satisfied to see man restored in his natural rights. Those natural rights to man from God (life, liberty, pursuit of happiness), and knowing that these natural rights are in agreement with man’s social duties. Part of man’s social duties is exercising his voting privilege, or being voted into office to exercise the bounds of his “rights of conscience” in representing his constituents.]

I reciprocate your kind prayers for the protection & blessing of the common father and creator of man, and tender you for yourselves & your religious association, assurances of my high respect & esteem.

[It seems obvious Mr. Jefferson is returning good wishes in kind that he received from the Danbury Baptist association.]

Th Jefferson Jan. 1. 1802.

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It is time for the majority of American Christians to end their silence on this issue. The courts have been getting it wrong since the 1940’s. If we value the revival of our American Christian faith, families, education, Constitution, and Republic, this issue is central to revival.

Copyright © 2012 by Juanita Holloway-Walters

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VISITING HOURS

I cannot say exactly why my thoughts have gone to this topic today. Anyone who follows my blog, will soon figure out I am just as likely to write about what the Grandgirls or the Grandboy did today, as I am about my yummy Chicken and Dumplings, or religion and politics. But that is how life should be. When I see someone who writes only about politics, I wonder if they have a life that others can relate to. Are they happy slipping too far into only one facet of life? I wonder if they realize that it is in the ordinary aspects of our lives that we can correctly see the subjects of religion and politics.

Today, I am alive in every sense of the word, but that has just been a recent development. Thank you my friend D’Lesa for figuring out why I could not recover. For over a year, since two major surgeries a week apart, I could not fight my way out of the health hole I was in. Oh, I worked very hard at making my appearance as good as it gets, but one small outing could put me back in the bed for a couple of days doing much worse than before the outing. If anyone out there needs what I did, you can email me at wbs77777@hotmail.com NO, I am NOT SELLING YOU ANYTHING. I will just tell you where you can find it on the internet.

My thoughts today actually went to my hospital room of three weeks in February 2011. My husband’s constant presence and help were truly what kept me from just giving up before I started my recovery. He has a way of not saying a word – I can just read things in his blue eyes. From our first date forward John and I, together, are like a fine old wine you just want to savor forever. (No, we are not winos, but do appreciate wine-thirty now and then.) I don’t believe this happens to other people every day, but what do I know. I can only tell you that I am blessed beyond measure. Jesus is my rock, and John is my excellent husband.

It meant so much to me when family members came to visit me in the hospital. It doesn’t matter if the visit is five minutes or five hours. However, often five minutes is best when there is a throne next to your bed, and that throne is a huge step up from the bed pan. I remember how hard – what a huge ordeal it was – to get from the bed to the throne. I felt like I had accomplished a tremendous feat. If I was silly enough to lie down in the bed once I came home, I soon remembered there were no nifty buttons to push my bed and me into a sitting position. I felt awful waking John from a sound sleep in the middle of the night to sit me up.

After I returned home I received a few calls from people who said, “I was meaning to get to the hospital the last week or so to see you, and I am so sorry I just never made it over.  Well, you weren’t in there that long . . .” Of course, I would say, “I was in there a little over three weeks.” They would feign shock that I had actually been there that long. Nothing makes a person feel worse than to hear I meant to come see you, but  . . . Hmmm But what? The only correct and logical thought for you to think at that point, is that they simply didn’t care enough.

This is a huge problem in America – being symptomatic – of America’s root problems. Besides it being important for my well-being, and improvement, for you to show up to see me (pretend I am your friend here), it is important for your well-being for you to care about your family and friends above all else on this planet. Most people do not have the spouse that John and I have, and you may just be at the top of their list of human beings they care about, and hope you feel the same way. You may never fully appreciate how important “visiting hours” are until you are flat on your back, staring at the door to your room for the duration of “visiting hours.”

Having said all of that, there is the occasional odd duck in the family who does not want visitors. We suspect that they do not want any of us to see them unless they are A1, 100%, their usual gorgeous self (and you know who I am talking to – the only person I ever knew who didn’t want visitors)! There are those people from Hollywood or New York City who don’t want visitors when they have their faces, butts, boobs, and God knows what else lifted. Like we don’t know what they did the first time they show their odd looking faces in public. (You people know who you are too!) I think it is safe to say that almost everyone we know would like for you to visit them in the hospital. If in doubt, do it anyway!

God created us for His glory; but he also created us with a huge capacity to love and care for each other. I think it is a requirement. Many of us have been a bit preoccupied with the evils within our nation. It is totally understandable. But, (always a but – huh?), it is in how We The People actually live our lives that determine how much evil does or does not filter into the Republic. Life is not about what the television is peddling today, or the violent computer games, or what scandals and lies our government is hypnotizing us with. Get off the television and the computer and live.

Visiting hours are between 6 p.m. and 9 p.m., and all the other hours of the day! Americans are the kindest and most generous people on the planet – but we are in the process of being processed right out of our family and friend-friendly heritage. We need to get back to the habit of Visiting Hours. Other than work, and family meals together, Visiting Hours should be the most important thing in our lives. Why do our friends and family have to be in the hospital before you MIGHT go and visit with them. I know I am not describing everyone, but I am describing enough of America who can change our future in the span of 30 days.

Without our daily supply of love and companionship we become a nation that could be infiltrated right in front of our noses and never know it. The Boston Terrorist Bombing made this perfectly clear. If we were the people our grandparents were, those people would have been discovered for who and what they are long before they could successfully build bombs to terrorize us with. America is, and will be, the sum of the energy we expend today individually. We can individually be involved with those friends, family, and NEIGHBORS whom live near us, or we can be isolationists within our communities who can be infiltrated at any day the enemy wishes. America was not largely invaded during WWII because most homes had a gun for protection, and most people knew who was out of place in their community almost instantly. Changing America back to the safe nation Americans once enjoyed, is as simple as each of us individually changing our life-habits into the wholesome image we so desire. If Americans stop being isolationists tomorrow, our Republic could be vastly different in 30 days. The evil works are only working because we are not united in our families, and in our communities.

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