Anyone who knows John and I know that we are Conservative to the bone, and have always been so. The success of our 21-year marriage is that we are kindred spirits, like two happy peas in a pod. Once upon a time we were each unhappily married to Liberals. In my instance, I made more money than this particular Mr. Ex. That fact was a thorn in his side that I never understood. I remember that on my weekly payday I would put my paycheck in the bank at lunch. By the time I got home, we each had bought ourselves a carton of cigarettes on our respective way home from work. Sometimes we hit the store at the exact same time. We each knew that we had to make that carton last until the next payday.
On one particular night before payday, Mr. Ex asked me for half of the partial pack I had left. He had already enjoyed all of his carton, and had not been wise with his choices. I was growing tired of his lack of self control. I told him no; that I had just enough left in my last pack to make it until I could buy my carton the next day.
Oh my goodness! Mr. Ex snatched my partial pack from me and destroyed my cigarettes. He said that is what I deserved because I wouldn’t share! He told me that I was not a fair person. As he was leaving home in a rage, he said that because of me he was going to have to go bum some cigarettes off of his single friends who were out drinking, and that wasn’t fair because he worked all day – real work, not office work.
I cooked our dinner, ate with the kids, and made Mr. Ex a plate, which I left for him on the stove. I bathed the kids, had play / cuddle / story time with the kids and put them to bed.
I couldn’t help but ponder a few things beyond this one incident:
When was I going to get to go out and bum cigarettes and beers off of friends?
Oh! Never! I do not do that – ever!
Why is everything bad, or simply inconvenient, that happens to Mr. Ex my fault?
Why was his incessant unhappiness my responsibility?
I eventually figured out all of the answers, which finally made me receptive (years later) to a healthy marriage match for me. My little story exactly describes the difference between a Liberal mindset, and a Conservative mindset.
I know America’s problems are huge, but the American Conservative body needs to actively divorce the American Liberal body by being the responsible party. There ya’ go – the new American party could be called The Responsible Party – irresponsible people need not run for office any more. The sleeping giant is awake and active!
I was an enabler in the whole abuser / victim dynamic when married to Mr. Ex. The American Silent Majority Conservative Responsible Party need to metaphorically rise to the national occasion, and stop enabling the ever expanding Republican/Democratic/Abusive Liberals.
Today, the sick codependent American political marriage must end. Abusive Liberals are like out-of-control children who are allowing violent enemies to come into OUR nation with no awareness of the fact that they are letting their own murderers inside our house. The codependent Abusive Liberal is so out of control, they have become a danger to themselves and others. Period.