TEXAS LADY JUANITA
The institution of marriage may be the future success story America needs to turn our population back on the path that rescues the happy family. Even though the statistics say that America has a 40% to 50% divorce rate (depending on which statistics you look at), I believe it is possible for this to greatly improve. When I finally got it right after several failures, people whom I knew from casually to people I knew closely wanted to know John’s and my secret to the perfect marriage. We had something others wanted. I am not sure exactly what others believed about how we achieved this desirable relationship.
The surprise is that we never worked at our marriage. The following things came naturally and could be easily seen:
~ Equally yoked: Respect, Love, Romance, Intellect, Education, Values, and Morals.
~ Equal givers – Neither of us had ever been married to a giver until we married. We were happy givers.
~ The “Crystal Ball Pact” – Neither of us had a crystal ball, nor could we read each other’s mind. We made a pact that if we wanted something, or some romantic event, we would simply tell each other our daily heart’s desires.
~ In 23 years neither of us ran out of things to talk about because we genuinely liked each other.
~ We each had separate interests we could pursue at home.
~ We each included the other in pursuing interests outside the home.
~ We were best friends.
~ We fell in love almost instantly; so that throws out the necessity for long courtship before marriage. We courted throughout our marriage – like a habit we both loved – dating and courtship.
~ THE MOST IMPORTANT: We took the marriage scriptures in The Holy Bible to heart. God made us different for a reason, and we each enjoyed our differences. No ship can have two Captains. John was the head of our family, and he consulted with me on every issue of importance. Others said that was okay because she got her heart’s desires . . . AND SO DID HE.
Genesis 2:18, 21-24
And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.~ ~ ~ And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.
Ephesians 5:22-25, 28-33
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; ~ ~ ~ So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless, let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
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