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‘MAKING AMERICA GREAT AGAIN’ SERIES – COMMENTARY ONE – MARRIAGE

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Juanita Holloway-Walters

This is it; the one that caused writer’s block. The subject matter has done much to divide America, and all the way down to the family and close, warm, personal, friend level in society. A question: Why should I turn my back on my centuries old Christian beliefs of marriage, to pretend to embrace someone else’s beliefs – JUST BECAUSE THEY WANT ME TO THINK SOMETHING I AM NOT HARD WIRED TO THINK? It is a ridiculous proposition. I am praying the emotional blackmail of deceitful Political Correctness has run its course, and failed in America. We may be surprised at how fast certain aspects of the Politically Correct model of America may change over-night, if American Christians turn away from Secular Christianity fraught with agnostic, and even pagan beliefs.

It still confounds me as to how such a small segment of our population was hijacked by the enemy within, using the truly evil practices of Political Correctness to insert counter-culture ideals into the very core of our American Culture. The “latest estimate shows that 3.8% of our population actually identify as LGBT,” as per Gallup. (1) We can scarcely turn on the big or little screens without having the gay lifestyle crammed down our throats. The fabric of our Christian nation is weak to have allowed this content to be in the realm of 100% saturation of our children through school, through television, and through music.

SKREEEEECCCHHHHHHH! STOP! NEWS FLASH! THE LIONS SHARE OF BLAME FOR OUR POLITICALLY CORRECT BROKEN AMERICA IS NOT THE 3.8% OF OUR POPULATION — IT IS A LARGE PORTION OF THE 75% OF AMERICANS WHO SAY THEY ARE CHRISTIANS – but, do not follow the Commandments Jesus gave us; nor do they follow the Ten Commandments handed down to Moses from God. No Christian precept may have been violated more than the scriptures telling us about Marriage. How many married Christians are following what the Word of God says about marriage? What Baby Boomers passed down to our children, and grandchildren is a lack of respect for our heterosexual Christian marriage. If the institution of marriage had not been sorely abused, we would be a wholesome America not needing to “Make America Great Again.”

How many marriages failed because The Lord was not present in the marriage? I can tell you that The Lord was not present in my failed marriages. Then I got on my knees and asked the Lord to forgive me for having a victim mentality when it came to relationships with men. I did not know my scriptures well, and therefore, I had no reference of what life was all about. Because I did not know my Bible, I was totally without any real help. We exist for God’s glory, and if we are here for God’s glory, then we should know what pleases God. One day I prayed to understand the scriptures, and it was as if a light had been turned on in my soul, and in my mind. Not only do I understand the scriptures, but I also understand who is in the scriptures and why my understanding is so important to a happy life.

Not long after that, I prayed on my knees, and asked The Lord to pick me a husband who loved The Lord, would be faithful to me, and who would love me in all the ways I love. My marriage with John for two decades has been a miracle to me every day. The love and respect in the beginning has grown over the years. Hardships came and went without much fuss, because we had something bigger in our lives than teen aged children testing us at every turn, careers, wealth, or health issues. I look back and see much love and laughter every day of our marriage ordained by God. We pray to be an example to our loved ones, and to others . . . even to be a catalyst for others to improve their marriages. John and I see other good marriages, and we are further strengthened in the purpose of the gifts God has given each of us to be a help to you when we are able.

For Americans to “Make America Great Again,” America’s Christian population must renew their relationship with Christ, and renew their commitment to great marriages. Great marriages make great families. Great families make an involved citizenry that looks to local schools, churches, and community institutions with The Lord’s Christian Absolutes in mind. WE DO NOT CHECK OUR CHRISTIAN FAITH AT ANY DOOR, FOR ANYONE. If we are Christian, who we are is Christian to the bone.

Sadly, only a small percentage of today’s American Christian population has read The Bible. Because they do not know what their Bible says, they have nothing of encouraging value when it is most needed.
“Today, about one-third of American adults report reading the Bible once a week or more. The percentage is highest among Elders (49%) and lowest among Millennials (24%).” (2) The Word of God, contains the Moral Absolutes Christians need to live a wholesome life.  ‘All come short of His Glory’ (3); and when we have fallen short of His Glory, we are to repent, seek forgiveness, and move on in life without the need to keep going back to learn the same lesson over, and over again. We are to grow spiritually, for which there is much help in studying The Bible.

Satan, and his minions, exist to trip you up by giving you the Big Lie of Moral Relativism. It means that my faith is the faith of life, and someone else’s is the faith of death. Moral Relativism says that they are equal and both true. It also means that the death crowd believes their views should be taught to my children, and it is only fair for my children to be exposed to their minority faith. I do not believe in Moral Relativism, and cannot abide by such negative and lethal forces to be allowed anywhere near my children, and grandchildren.

The truth is that our marriages are a reminder of the relationship Christ has with His Church here on Earth. When we dishonor the millennium old tradition of Christian marriage, we are also dishonoring our relationship with Christ – we are The Church – Christ’s Church. Our marriages should be an example to all the goodness of Holy union with our spouse, and with our Lord as members of His Church. There are many scriptures about marriage, but this is the most excellent in my view:

“EPHESIANS 5:
“20 Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ;

21 Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.

22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto The Lord.

23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the Church: and He is the saviour of the body.

24 Therefore as The Church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

26 That He might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by The Word,

27 That He might present it to Himself a glorious Church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.

28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as The Lord The Church:

30 For we are members of His body, of His flesh, and of His bones.

31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and The Church.

33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.”

Not that John and I have the perfect marriage, for there is no such thing under the sun; however, we stand on 20+ years of the closest thing to it that either of us have ever seen. We have seen other good marriages, but ours is almost supernaturally excellent. The Lord matched us up – two givers. The love and mutual respect is a part of the success. I think that we like our male and female roles, and we enjoy being male and female as God made us down to the DNA in our cells. We have also been blessed beyond measure, and our prayers have all been answered. We do not forget to ask Him to help us attain needed medical help, as well as help for others. Some say we are lucky. I don’t believe in luck; I believe in recognizing the blessings in our lives without ceasing.

Solomon was the second son of David and Bathsheba. His mother worried that his father had taught him to be a womanizer. Bathsheba’s pet name for her son is Lemuel and we see in Proverb 31 the advice she imparts to him regarding a wife – a wife worthy of a King!!

PROVERB 31
10 
Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.

11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.

12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.

14 She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar.

15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.

16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.

17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.

18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.

19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.

20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.

21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.

22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.

23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.

24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.

25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.

26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.

27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.

28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.

29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.

30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.

31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.”

We have witnessed in America the deliberate masculation of women by certain factions of our population, and the counter emasculation of men in that process. For every movement under the sun, there is a counter movement that occurs. Women hit their forties and wondered at their biological clocks tick, tick, ticking away, and the absence of available marriageable men. Many of these women became bitter and angry, without recognizing if they had played a part in the sad outcome . . . without asking for forgiveness for the error of their ways, and their biological clock alarms stopped ringing. Many men who turned from women, have not found the peace they were seeking. The saddest part in all of this is the effect it has had on the next two generations.

The studies of children in America is a hotbed of information. It matters not who did the study, or how scientific, there is always a group of naysayers. “Dr. Mark Regnerus is a University of Texas Sociologist who rocketed to fame – or infamy, depending on one’s views of homosexual parenting – in 2012 with the publication of his study about how well children are doing.” (4) Other studies from the LGBT crowd have proven to be “fixed” by the subjects in the study. Dr. Regnerus’ study skyrocketed because of his actual random sampling of a large study group. BUT, we can look to studies of children from broken homes, alcoholic homes, abusive home, welfare homes, and homes of any extreme element, to find that children from these homes are in an emotional pickle, just as the children in the Dr. Regnerus study.

Children need boundaries for themselves and their friends (so important), for their siblings, and for their parents – the rules of acceptable behavior – or Moral Absolutes. To find success in our lives, we need only look to our Lord and Savior, and what He tells us in the scriptures. My favorite place for Jesus advice is the book of Matthew, but they are found in all the Gospels, as well as the letters Jesus wrote to the churches in Revelation, and on every page of the Bible. The most important and widely read book since Jesus death and resurrection, is sadly not being read by all Christians. It is the only book that will help heal our Republic; and it is pivotal in American’s “Making America Great Again.” Without a return to Biblical Christianity, any attempts of restoring the Republic would be weak at best. This is where the healing must begin.

Copyright © 2016 by Juanita Holloway-Walters, All Rights Reserved

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More Bible verses about marriage for your own study. These plus the ones noted in the commentary above would make a good long-term small group study:

Genesis 2:18                                         Psalm 128:1-6               Proverbs 5:12-14
Proverbs 20:6-7                                     Malachi 2:13-14             1 Corinthians 7:3
Colossians 3:18-19                                1 Timothy 5:14              Hebrews 13:4

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(1) http://www.gallup.com/poll/183383/americans-greatly-overestimate-percent-gay-lesbian.aspx
(2) http://www.barna.com/research/the-bible-in-america-6-year-trends/#
(3) Romans 3:23
(4) http://www.cnsnews.com/commentary/lynn-wardle/childrens-sake-we-must-not-ignore-differences-between-heterosexual-and-same

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FROM THE HEART – FOR ALL CHRISTIANS

Before I get to the subject matter of importance today –
the next time someone starts squawking at you about:
global cooling (which had man’s total destruction about twenty years ago), global warming (which had man’s total destruction up to about a year  ago), and now global climate change (at some future date they keep  changing – yes, they are soooooo smart they cannot decide whether it will be cooling or heating that will kill us all – soon),
Please remember weather events such as the “dustbowl” (1934 – 1937 drought over many farming states during The Great Depression),
‘1900 Galveston Hurricane’ (look it up to be horrified),
many Nor’easters (nor’easter is basically when a big storm moving across the country from west to east meets a big storm from the Atlantic into America mid to above the Carolinas),
and all the recorded climate catastrophes
over thousands of years of man’s written word.

Many think we are in the end time scenario of the Bible; but are we? Well, it is a hard point to argue against when we look around our nation today. But, we are to carry on in faith until the Lord comes for His own, His church. As I look at America today, I can scarcely believe my eyes and ears. Men of religious authority are teaching the flock of things apostate in nature. Preaching such shocking and twisted doctrine such as basing one’s ministry on riches for works, of reparations from the innocent, of re-defining Jesus’ definition of marriage . . . I even heard from the grapevine, of those in the know, of a major leader claiming God is telling him to nix a Commandment, add to another, and to create a whole new one.  To make a complete list of such twisted doctrine would require more documentary space than anyone would endure to read. But we have clear authority in the Bible to describe this phenomenon . . .

2 Timothy 4:3-4 (KJV)

“For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; And they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables.”

How could any Christian read the Parables in Matthew, and live their lives willfully against the life lessons He gave to all of us? Upon judgement, telling God that you had an Earthly teacher lead you astray will not help you.

We look around at our world that is changing rapidly. What would not have been acceptable even 40 years ago barely phases a desensitized America. To put a name to the sins  . . .

Pride (Satan fell from grace over this one.)

Stirring up dissention.

Murder.

Lying.

Cheating.

Vanity.

Greed.

Envy.

Laziness.

Wrath.

Lust.

Gluttony.

Fornication. (Premarital sex, extramarital sex, any sex outside Jesus definition of marriage.)

Rape.

Some of these are actually offshoots of others on this list – but, most folks don’t think things through far enough to see that truth. Vanity covers a multitude of offshoots. I am sure there are many offshoots of these above, but you can see the words, and should have the ability to self-govern yourselves just as the Christian American Founders knew you could when they wrote The Declaration of Independence, and The Constitution.

OH !!!!! My bad! The Greatest Political Experiment EVER died a slow death, when too many Americans stopped being able to Self-Govern themselves. They pushed The Lord out of their lives, families, schools, businesses, churches, entertainment, and local / state / federal governments. Without being the strong CHRISTIAN nation we once were, we no longer required the citizens to conduct themselves according to God’s Commandments, and The Lessons of The Lords Parables.

If Christians were all truly Christian, when they confessed their sins to The Lord, with penitent hearts, they would be changed . . . And the nation would not be run by unholy liars and cheats, and our children would not be out of reasonable control. Our entertainment would not be the stuff of the list above.

Today I read . . . Matthew 20:17 -19

“And Jesus going up to Jerusalem took the twelve disciples apart in the way, and said unto them, Behold, we go up to Jerusalem; and the Son of man shall be betrayed unto the chief priests and unto the scribes, and they shall condemn him to death, And shall deliver him to the Gentiles to mock, and to scourge, and to crucify him: and the third day he shall rise again.”

Jesus came to teach, to tell us to love one another, and to sacrifice Himself to cover our sin – eradicated by His blood, then to come back to be seen by hundreds, thus proving what He told us is true.  We each decide for ourselves. When we become His, we are changed, and that list above becomes our list of things we endeavor to not do. We have a list that soon replaces the negative, and endeavor to live in the positive . . .

Christian Love.

Humility.

Healing.

TRUTH.

Faith.

Generosity.

Charity.

Honest Endeavor.

When I read the Matthew scripture above, I remembered that we are supposed to live our lives with Jesus as our example. How many of our leaders are a good example for our children? If not, why are they in office? How many of you are good replacement examples?

If you are a God fearing Christian, changed forever with Baptism by The Holy Spirit, go to my commentaries in webcommentary.com under Juanita Holloway-Walters and read a few of the “Why Not Me?” Commentaries. Hopefully you will be set on fire for being whoever you and The Lord knows you are. Pray for the Lord to lead you to much better teachers than me, or make you a better teacher. Then you will be able to follow through with your God given rights and talents to be an amazing example. When there are enough of you in your families and communities, you will set your community on fire to do positive things together. You will become examples to all of our children.

Your positivity in your faith will stop the negative folks in their current paths. The negative folks will either crawl back under the evil rock they came from, or they, too, in your love for the enemy, will find their evil natures shrink to make room for Godly purpose.

God bless and keep you and yours. America is counting on you.

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DID OUR TROOPS WHO FOUGHT FOR OUR FREEDOMS DIE IN VAIN?

The reaction to our Christian Religion being changed by state sponsored religious dictates is shocking. Where is the outrage at our government dictating Christian and Jewish religious precepts? Did our troops for over 230 years fight for our freedom? – and often suffered injury – or the greatest price for freedom – paid with their lives – die in vain? This is an add-on for thought to my earlier post:
https://texasladyjuanita.com/2015/06/26/from-the-heart-supreme-court-decision-is-wrong/

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FROM THE HEART: SUPREME COURT DECISION IS WRONG

Because marriage is a very integral part of Jewish and Christian Biblical religion, and Jesus defined marriage as one man and one woman – our Federal government, and some States are overriding our religions of free choice and forcing state sponsored religious laws on Americans. This is anti-Constitutional. We broke with Great Britain in part due to Englands forced state religion. Not only in forcing churches and synagogues to perform heretical marriage services, but in forcing Jews and Christians to commit heretical acts in their daily work – the necessary activity defined by our Biblical teachings that we must do honest work if able. We are required by the very nature of our religious faiths to be Jewish and Christian in all aspects of our lives.

Further, sacred marriage in my Christian religion requires I understand Jewish marriage to understand Christ’s relationship with me in the 69 weeks of the Christian Church Age and Salvation. Christ then returns His attention primarily on His Jewish people, and returns to save the remnant at His return to begin the millennium.

Many like me have pointed out that the 90 % of Christians who have not read / studied their Bibles would cause suffering of all Christians in America. This ruling by the Supreme Court (5 to 4 with dissenting judges writing scathing rebuttals of how the Supreme Court has acted outside of its legal bounds), would have never happened in my parents or grandparents generation (mine are crying out in shame from their graves).

“Matthew 19:4-6 KJV  And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”

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FROM THE HEART: “SOMEONE SAVED MY LIFE TONIGHT”

When I heard today Elton John’s “Someone Saved My Life Tonight,” my vulnerability, and emerging strengths from 40 years ago all came rushing into my present thoughts and senses. That song means different things to different people. We hear music that transports us to a place and time when it was contemporary. I first heard that song on a night when I felt I had escaped an unfaithful and destructive spouse. We affix meaning to the words that are personal to each of us, only vaguely aware of what it probably meant to the artist who gives us timeless music. I look back on how emotionally damaged I was, and I thank the Lord I eventually healed.

Being emotionally crippled doesn’t mean one cannot function well, but it can mean you are consumed by the feeling of being a fraud as an adult. When one of the employees under my supervision confronted me with accusations of expecting others to be as “perfect” as me, I was in a rare moment of total incomprehension. I did not recognize it for the manipulation it was. She described me as a freak of nature with perfect this and perfect that, and an abnormally higher level of work ethic than the rest of the world. How I wish everyone today understood that lowering the bar on anything such as ethics, faith, education, and endeavors is to validate a losing philosophy of bringing everyone down to the loosing level, instead of having everyone work to attain the highest level of success in all areas of life.

What I didn’t recognize 40 years ago is that I was working in my personal and professional life under that false assumption of: If everything looks and seems perfect, then everything must be in the realm of normal. This was applied to the appearance of myself, marriage, children, home, and office; and in my performance of work, as well as the work of those I supervised. YES, it was as exhausting as it sounds. The further I ended up from the love I so desperately needed to give and receive, the more I strived to make everything around me perfect.

Except it wasn’t – none of it. Being of strong faith, I prayed and prayed for my emotional life / love live / married life to be whole and good and meaningful. If that prayer had been handed to me while I was still broken, it had zero chance of lasting more than a moment in time. I was working myself to a frazzle at cross purposes. At the very least I was third generation of women in my family who suffered from spousal abuse – mental and / or physical. I worked as hard at getting it right as I have worked at anything in my life, with nothing but repeated failure to show for it.

The first book I read for some help was titled “Women Who Love Too Much” by Robyn Norwood. Oh my goodness, I read the first chapter and cried from the deepest recesses of my soul. I read and studied self-help books on this subject, and spent about 6 months in self sought-after counseling. That led to studying personality types, and abusive / alcoholic homes. I am not saying that all of this studying was of no benefit. If nothing else it honed my management skills. I started to figure out who I was, and relaxing for the first time in my life. But, nothing about my broken emotional state was healing.

I soon figured out the dirty little secret about everyone’s inner child. Take a fairly brief look back to learn from it, and quickly leave your inner child where he/she belongs – in your childhood! Absolutely everyone comes from a dysfunctional home – everyone! We are all living in the same mixed bag of pseudo-heaven, pseudo-hell, and daily grind on this earth. I also learned something we drill into our children, one’s best intentions was never the winning recipe for any endeavor. As a young woman, I was up to my ears in good intentions – mine and theirs . . .

So, how did I finally break the generational mold, and stop marrying the same bad situation over and over again trying desperately to finally get it right? How do I take half of the credit for the most amazing marriage for twenty years? The answer is the easiest, and seemingly hardest thing humans can do. I turned one hundred percent to my faith in God, and my constant belief in the Gospel regarding our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. I quickly discovered that I had not brought my faith to maturity. It takes effort to accomplish these things in Christian faith that enrich our lives, bring us into viable awareness of His Holy Spirit within us, and therefore we truly become reborn / new, and ready for adult Christian marriage. The successes of many Christian marriages can often be understood when you think of the following things, and the positive effect they have on couples, communities of couples, and nations of couples:

–     First, before and after marriage, we should study the Bible as a whole book written by the Lord through men via His Holy Spirit. To do this we must become aware of who is talking and who is being talked to throughout the scriptures. When you do this work, you come to understand that most of the Bible is written for the Jew, the rest is written for the Gentile. This clears up the constant criticism of supposed inconsistencies in the scriptures by those who are ignorant – to the ignorant. The book seen under this light changes before your eyes. You see how every word, every scripture, every book is tied to all others. Until you understand the essence of those thousands of ties, you will not understand it was written first outside our space / time continuum by our Lord – no other explanation covers the phenomenon you will see for yourself upon thorough study. Look for redemption and our Lord on every page. If we come into a marriage having done this work separately, we can continue it together – providing the solid foundation a husband and wife need to raise up their children.

–     Remember, that our Lord is Jewish – and the Christian marriage in totality of meaning is innately Jewish. The Lord coming for His Bride / His Church – is a “type” of the Jewish marriage.

–     The entire Bible is for our study. The lessons for the Jews, and Christians are so very important for the Christian couple to understand the world today. These lessons need to be passed down to children raised in Christian homes.

–     IF you are not willing to apply what Jesus says about marriage to your life, then you may not be ready for marriage.

–     As a Christian you are charged with the Great Commission – to bring the love and the word of the Lord to others. If you are not feeling a positive “change” after accepting the Lord into your life, check that you are not worshipping a non-Christian false god (parading around as our Lord), and living for something other than being one of God’s children. We are warned to not be deceived.

–     It is important to be equally yoked in a Christian marriage – similar backgrounds, intelligence, culture, likes, are very helpful, BUT, the most important would be same commitments, such as work ethic, family ethic, and faith.

–     A Christian marriage is a union of a man and a woman with the Lord in their marriage.

–     “Ephesians 6:22 – 33 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the Saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.”

NOTE: Do not misunderstand. God created you, husband and wife, equal – but different for good and very wonderful reasons.

–     To worry, worry, worry is so Jewish mamma . . . not Christian (LOL).  We must leave our worries with the Lord. Pray for guidance in all things. Many a Christian marriage could do with much less worrying.

When I asked the Lord to pick me a husband because I had done such a lousy job of it, I also prayed ON MY KNEES for guidance. Almost immediately He moved my heart to open my Bible one more time – instead of trying to understand it – my eyes were opened, and I understood it.

The home I grew up in created a broken Juanita who just didn’t know how to escape the turmoil of her parent’s volatile marriage, especially marrying that same type of turmoil myself. I was the 3rd child of Happy Harry and Beautiful Mary. I was the “fixer” in a socially alcoholic home. I was the kid who believed she could love them enough and do enough for them (the whole Cinderella routine LOL), and would fix them in the process – thusly carrying that theme into my adult life – over and over again – desperately trying to make it come out right.

I was not raised in a home of adults who took their children to church. My parents being of different Christian denominations decided to let us figure it out for ourselves once we were adults. I was the black sheep in my party family; the one who tagged along to any Christian church, with anyone who would let me ride along. In grade school I loved the Vacation Bible Schools of five different Christian Denominations. I tagged along to church with different folks each year of my teen life. Without the foundation of parents who were in a healthy Christian marriage, with the Lord included, I still came out into my young adult life broken emotionally.

HOWEVER, I saw the goal constantly! I cannot remember how many homes where I saw how good it was when the family prayed and worshipped together. Look around our nation. Look at the debauchery and blatant unhappiness everywhere. Even those who are happy in their Christian marriages look hard to find fellowship in a church that has not turned apostate. I cannot fathom a citizenry that prefers the state of the entire nation today, than other periods of time when our Christian faith super-majority tendered America very good, and infinitely safer for families. What God would have us do – the millions of Americans who are sick of the debauchery, corruption, lies, and deceptions in their communities, and their nation – is to get on our knees together and pray for the Lord to intervene – to ask the Lord’s forgiveness – with a penitent heart – every day without ceasing – and He will heal our land. God Bless You.

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