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RUNNING IN CIRCLES – NEED YOUR ADVICE

You know I try to write only when I have something to say, and I am still here. When I worked, I worked circles around others, while training them to take my place. Today, the effects of 35 years of illness (and over 20 of those hiding it), and effects of necessary medications, I am more likely running in circles. I love to cook, and it has not escaped me that activity lasts 2 to 3 hours – and there is closure as we eat the things I cook. That equals feeling successful day to day. When I clean out a chest of drawers or a closet, it is such a successful high, I get John to take me out to celebrate. Me getting gussied up to even a fraction of younger glory is cause to have an adult beverage. (That is limited to only one drink a few times a year due to medications.)

What I am doing – to do a NEW set of commentaries  . . .

Writing some commentaries about sin – and I started them yesterday  by writing the introduction. . .

Needed scripture from Matthew, found it, but . . .

Remembered it is one of the books I must study in detail – so far about 8 hrs on Chapter One, and about 2 hrs. on Chapter Two . . .

Had an epiphany about a book need to co – write with John and re – outlined 14 Chapters.

Remembered my Daughter in love gave me a 1938 copy of Crime and Punishment and I still want to read it and I started today, appropriate to the commentaries . . .

AND Here is where I need your wisdom:

There is the HUGE parent / adult child issue with my 36 year old STILL taking up valuable brain time! He apparently doesnt understand respect, in the way I do . . . and the most important difference between talk and action – and I get from him that in some unexplained way it is my fault? Not a chance . . . Action woman here that raised him. Love him. My pendulum was in the other extreme, I could never tell my Mamma no. I need to figure this out so I can let the issue go. Love my kids madly! It would be fair to say that I was the primary working provider in their young lives . . . And also enjoyed their company and being fun Mommy . . . when I wasn’t being Strict Mommy bearer of Consequences!

So here is the issue, and any wise words you could share with me would be appreciated. Oh, not a chance he reads my blog posts, and they are not on FB. He listens to books while driving from business clients to the office to picking up kids to home to wherever . . . Not a reader like me – he does also have his fathers genes.

Issue: If I dont call him, I wouldn’t hear from him but MAYBE 6 times a year. His words: Mom, anyone who talks to me, or sees me, knows they have to call and make an appointment in my life – even my clients know this. I am too busy to remember to call you or stop in to see you. I should clarify that he and his wife own their own business.

When John and I lived 30 minutes away, the excuse was that we just lived too far away. We moved – 8 minutes door to door. He tells me that as he and my grand daughters pass by where we live every day, the girls wave and say, Hi Grandmama in my general direction.

Over the years , I did call him, for him to tell me he had another call, and he would call me back – which he rarely did. Case in point. Even the day at the VA when we learned about my husbands stage 4 cancer, and I excused myself as John was winding up with the doctor – I ran outside crying and called my son, needing his support, and he said he would call me back, but did not. I understand business is important . . . But?

So, recently he expands the ‘you call me’ theory of conduct. Even his martial arts class is a scheduled event 2 nights a week . . . As well as “boys night out ” for him, and “baby sit his own children”  night for his wife to get out. There is church on Wednesdays, and Sundays where he drives the bus to pick up and drop off the old people, and there is their young couples class and church . . . And the various ways in which his wife’ s family depends on him – good example is all those females telling him he will be the one to spend nights in the hospital with his father- in – law because he is so hard to handle. That is a true statement. Saturdays are for all the birthday parties his children attend, and in the evenings the adults socializing with their friends.

I totally get that he is supposed to leave his parents, and cleave unto his wife . . . But I didnt find the part in scripture where you only talk to and see your mother 4 times a year. (Christmas, each grand-girl’s birthday, and the day before Mothers Day.) I have flat out told him that I need his support in my life. He replied that he needed me in his life too. Right . . .

I am so ready to stop feeling hurt over this. About once a day my thoughts go to my son, and in prayer for a happy solution. I was the one who called and planned get togethers for many years. John and I are battling his cancer, my escalated degenerative diseases, and some awful side affects of taking meds long term now. I thought my son would step up and be a uniting force in all this. I did try to say, okay, we will eat dinner, all of us, every Friday, since the rest of the week is filled already with other people and places. It happened once, and I was told we would do it on a Friday to Friday basis because their boys and girls nights out were much needed and on Fridays.

Either the answer to my prayers are no, or The Lord is telling me to be even more patient. OR?

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AT THE END OF THE DAY . . .

From moment to moment we don’t even know who’s team we are on . . . Washington looks more like a set up to me – dead men tell no tales? – and all those people they have kept in lock down? . . . and the facts change with the hour . . . our enemy today is our friend tomorrow is our enemy the next day . . . WMD everywhere – you are made to feel paranoid – your water – your food . . . as long as man has his sin nature, THERE WILL BE NO UTOPIA, get it yet? . . . take my guns away – but arm the IRS and the EPA – nope, we will not let it happen – we love our children – most of us understand honest endeavor – there must be good people everywhere, but I will bank on the ones I know here for sure . . . G20 / G8 / “I will have more leverage after the election” – who’s doing who? . . . At the end of the day, all bets are off. I will place my trust in the Lord, and then in my husband . . . and I will love the grand babies that I am able to see often for sure – and the rest from afar. We must not sell our souls to the devil. This song came to mind tonight as I was watching all the badly done brinkmanship .
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p8_FOQ7-P30

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Brinkmanship with the Enemy

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It seems to me that Nuclear Brinkmanship is a dangerous game, and ignoring direct threats is foolish. As the game escalates, perhaps the enemy could not back down without losing face. The North Korean leader is young and may not have the wisdom needed for his leadership job. While the right hand is playing this nuclear Brinkmanship game, Americans have developed a bad habit of not watching the left hand. It would be interesting to know just what President Obama, General Dempsey (and the other Joint Chiefs), and Heaven Forbid Mr. Kerry think of these threats. As most Americans have, I have thought on 9/11/01 much – I believe America probably ignored threats, because they thought they were preposterous, and that turned out to be disastrous.

WMD – Over the decades there are so many weapons activities that have never been explained, it would be impossible with absolute certainty to say just exactly what any nation has and doesn’t have. A few examples – missing Russian suitcase nukes – OR – the contents of the long string of semi-trucks leaving Iraq during the days we were threatening to invade – OR – the two ships that left Iraq while we were telling the whole world we were going to invade Iraq (something about these two ships that left Iraq and were silent running way out in the ocean – and we never heard what became of them). Yes, I know that was redundant in part . . . did I ever tell you all the things we saw Iraq doing on the television, and heard about from guests on talk radio, while we were announcing what we were going to do for days on end??!! We also hear about the technology that has been leaked to our enemies – what about the leaks that have not yet been discovered? The bottom line with WMD is that it is impossible to know with any certainty what an enemy does or doesn’t have. Our small enemies are friends with our big enemies – and our big enemies have all manner of WMD
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My point is that we should never ignore a direct threat, and while the threat is a nuclear threat, an enemy could be preparing to do something different (like Chemical Warfare) instead. There is no honor among our enemies. To the lay person, it would seem that American troops are not only the only troops following the Geneva Convention rules – but also the primary ones held to those rules. Our enemy chops off American’s heads and the world does not cry – not even a whimper. If we so much as put underwear on a prisoner’s head, and perhaps water board a handful of the enemy with information that could prevent the deaths of thousands, and America is crucified in the court of world opinion.

The fact that we have not closed our porous borders would make our leaders (all leaders since 9/11) complicit should an attack come inside America because of porous borders. Millions of American citizens have been screaming to close our borders for twelve years, and have been ignored. Because of our much publicized, crooked-to the-bone, government and because of our raunchy entertainment pushed and paid for by the enemies within, much of the world has come to hate us. The American’s life was once the dream that the world’s oppressed prayed for. The real America is still what the oppressed around the world should hope for, but that side of America is not seen around the world. Unfortunately, those enemies without and within, seek to destroy the America that I love. Once again, I think we have every reason to believe direct threats, and our government ignoring them is just more of the failure of “leading from behind” – because they want the destruction to come to us. “Leading from behind” is an oxymoron – any resemblance to actual people who believe this crap is not intended.

Americans are praying daily to God for peaceful resolutions with our enemies of all ilk. Sadly, there are those in our own government who wish to call praying Americans some kind of possible terrorist – even though our primary activity is praying – the most peaceful pro-active activity known to mankind.

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